The Sex Thing

We are opening up. All feelings exposed. From the first impression to the first kiss, we feel we have expressed and felt everything we needed to share for this very important moment. Every personal barrier broken, personal space turns into a wrapped cocoon of all the feelings we have kept hidden for the amount of time we have waited to express them. This sex thing should not be taken lightly. This is the next step in this long process of love. It can be used for the greater good or abused just to let off a quick reaction, the act off a sudden impulse that can ruin a relationship between two people if one has seem to take advantage of the other.

This moment we allow ourselves into is very crucial. Not to fast, this is the time you bask in the moment. Not to slow, you don't want the joy to drift away. Just the right speed, tempo and mindset. Emotions are racing, its as if our bodies don't know if they want to leap for joy or search for comfort. Yes SEX is a amazing feeling but I know for a fact it is much deeper than that. We have exposed ourselves to our partner for the first time and the morning after is a thing of beauty. When the motions of love are used in the proper way and the feelings are real and expressed in the right manner then every step we are taking in this path to love has been the right step.

I think all of us enter this part of the relationship with mixed emotions, fear, and joy. Our thoughts aren't fully operating the way we expect them to so that gives us our mixed emotions. Fear is the funny feeling you get when presenting your senior paper in high school, you know all the information, you've done your research but you still get that funny tingle in your stomach before performing. So there's your fear component. But the joy goes without say. I can speak for the guys entirely on this one. For us its like all summer you been practicing that crossover in your backyard and you finally get to show out at the varsity basketball game. You get the picture. Now for girls I know there is more emotion involved. Not to sound explicit but in this situation we are the givers while you lay and receive, all love is expressed in this dark slow ride to love. We have finally shared the space we all know and love. Two turn to one and we share thoughts, feelings and a step of love all in one room.

The First Kiss

The first kiss. What does this signify? Is this the finishing of the first lap of this long, tiring race? Does this identify the two people as being in something more than just a platonic relationship? All the question I know run through my head but my curiosity is does this though travels your mind? Any type of physical connection between two people always result in some type of feeling. Men attempt to keep these emotions hidden, so their testosterone power is in full effect. Women tend to be more open to express these feeling, opening themselves up to the person of their liking. But the first kiss is the breaking down of that first power shell in all men, no matter who you are. The soft lips, red lipstick, the long hug before and after. This is the first love expressed in a sense but lets not get into that four letter word quiet yet. The thoughts of a future, sharing the same bubble of space, the fear of that bubble bursting. We are all are having these flashes, whether you feel that way or not, those feelings reside in your mind even when you have no awareness of the thought.

The first kiss can be looked at like that first time you get on one that new roller coaster. The ride always looks fun. The turns, flips, screams, that butterfly feeling you get when the ride worker tightens your seat belt. That click of the seat beat, is the strapping into that new ride, new feel, new relationship. You hate the turns but your ready to embrace them, you fear the flips but they keep your heart racing, you either want the screaming to come to a stop or continue depending on the climax of the situation(get your mind out the gutter). But when that seat belt is buckled let the riding begin.
After all the expressions of the first impression are evaluated phase two begins. This phase is where the long term feelings are expressed. We're like NBA rookies in the summer league, showcasing all of our talents to our owners watching from the sideline. We must handle this phase with great patience and execution. Because in this game it's all about longevity.

As most small things are when it comes to a relationship, the first kiss is often overlooked. We overlook small important points because our expectations are always high no matter what. But for the more mature people that take their time know that it is the small thing that weigh the most. Like that boulder in every roadrunner episode the light feather always brings the destruction and in the case of these person to person relations, even small imprint is the next step closer to either holy matrimony or complete destruction.

The First Impression

“In psychology, a first impression is the event when one person first encounters another person and forms a mental image of that person. Impression accuracy varies depending on the observer and the target being observed." The first impression is one of those many things we overlook but is a key component to a successful start to a loving relationship. I compare my first time of meeting people to that first high school varsity practice. It's the beginning, you’re not sure if you want to showcase every highlight of your skill set or get the feel of your teammates and build together. And with a first impression you want to play all your cards right and make all the right moves. Because failure in phase one I'm sure won’t get you to phase two (which will be discussed later).

 

For guys I feel it is tougher to capitalize on making the first impression. I feel this way because we give off the energy, create the vibe that ultimately sets the tone for the encounter. The task for girls is simpler from my perspective, they have the luxury of feeding off our energy, good or bad. In this situation men are the house and women are the buyers. Just like in all aspects of life it seems that they will always have the final say. But as important as they are, there are also flaws to these first impressions depending on the length of time you consider this should be.                                             

In my opinion the first impression is not just one day of speaking to you in the streets or that one time we went out to dinner. I feel the first impression is an extended period of time ranging from a month to a full 365 days. I say this because it takes time to get to know who people are and getting to see their true colors, not just the sugar coated "first date". Because anyone can impress someone in a five minute talk or an hour lunch break but when that realm of consistency is tapped into that is where the real challenge begins, this is where you start to feel things out and make your long-term decisions. The longer amount of time you put into knowing a person and growing with them will most of time result in a better relationship between the two. That is why it is key for both males and females to give things time and not jump in the first car that looks and feels the coolest.

It is not hard to find love, you just can't rush the process. Put a relationship into the perspective of the levels of a high-rise building. Every floor is a new setting, another chapter to love's unfinished book. I say unfinished because even when you reach the top floor (marriage), there is still a lot of work to be put into that next sequel of the series. Let's title this series "The Life of Love".