The Finale

We have now completed this long race in these motions of love. All the questions have been answered to the best of my abilities. The completion of these motions were a long fought out journey. We have survived the ups and downs. We have united our trust in each other and are ready to embark on the long paradise together. But don't take the glorification of the paradise and paint over the picture of the land you have new establishment in. Paradise comes with expenses, add-ons, responsibilities. But with what you have gained in your past trails together you now have the strength for the bills and payments, love for the family you have created, and a grasp of the responsibilities you now have on your shoulder. You were built to ride, now all you to do is drive.

Touching on the topic of love for a male to do, many may raise an eyebrow. The perspective you build is he is soft or giving the females ammo to fire at men, with his tips and ideas. But maybe you just didn't really dig deep enough. In order to have a healthy relationship you and your partner must have equal perspectives from both sides of the ball, in order to have a productive love game. When talking to females I have often found myself open minded and not just keeping a closed mind of my own thoughts and perspective instead of respecting my partner's feelings. Knowing when something I have done something wrong or when I have expressed a feeling that is not the proper one. Small things like these are amateur stage learnings courses that develop us for the big leagues in relationships.

People always tell me that they don't believe they will ever settle down to find the right match because they are under the notion that they make the same mistakes and will never understand anything about love. I am under the impression that people fear this feeling. They run from it when they feel that the feelings are just getting to strong and your strength can't pull the weight. They either know what love is and choose to resist it or they have never had the beauty of seeing it close. I am there for those people because neither have I, my parents love each other as people but have lost a once connection. Not to get personal but you build from the vibes around you, and if they can stand strong together still through their differences and distance, anyone can.

So I wrote this blog for those people who just need to see this complex picture in a much metaphoric perspective. Relate everyday norms to the spaces in a relationship. Like a Seinfeld concept series on the motions of love. Only written by a young soul speaking to all audiences, both young and old. Breaking apart the complex perspectives, applying my own, and putting together a more simple understandable perspective.

And there you have it, Love and All Its Motions.

The Land of Matrimony and Beyond

We both are at the top and no force can bring us down. Parallel thoughts booming in our psychological spaces. To define love is to define us, the moments we have shared, the up and down roads we have drove through and conquered, the gained knowledge about the both of us. The flaws we have accepted and the attractions we never hesitated to embrace. We are now ready for this next and final step of these motions. Who would have thought that after all of that we would end up in the place we are presently about to embark on. Not to express any prior feeling of doubt. It's just like every fear we overcome, those butterflies in your stomach never go away, it is just the imagination of their flight around your insides creates a reaction or makes no distraction. We are ready for this step and never have we felt this confident about any decision we have made in our lives. The moment we have both dreamt of but never saw coming so fast. The wedding and beyond is now what we are in pursuit of. We have now made it, and this moment we never end but live on forever until life takes its last course and the movie theater lights come on.

When two people decide to bring themselves together in marriage it is a great thing to witness and hear about. To know that love is still alive and not a dying part of today's society is a great deal of relief. Today we see so many people going through rough break ups and never seeking for that feeling again. Individuals rushing into situations they may not quite be ready for. These situations always result in a lack of knowledge about the motions of love and if any care they have to the subject of love. In today's society we have become to accustomed to the breaking down of good relationships and happy home. The ride of love is no easy task but every turn we make gets us closer and closer to the desired destination. That is why we must maintain strength between the both of us and break the code. Seeing people together, growing in life, achieving goals together, starting new life, passing on love to many generations.

These are the starting points of a new wave in the pool of our love. Through every motion we have made it through. The beginning of a new chapter in our lives is being revealed. If these spaces could talk they'll tell us to spread love, and to give any extra power we've received from up about. The spaces have spoken. We have now tied all loose ends and formed a strong bond between to two of us. Not only do we spread love around us but the energy we give off is contagious to the others around us who have prepped themselves for this enjoyable roller coaster ride. Uphill and downhill we went. But on top is where we land and on top is where we will remain.

The Get Back

The distance is like no other. We don't like what we have become use to is no longer in our reach. Now we are ready to join those positive forces together. The separation we have establish did its job for the time it was used for but now we are ready to spark those vibes again. The commitment never drifted from the either of us, we have grown apart to come back and grow stronger together.
Stronger Bonds in these moments, smoother vibes, and peak into the environment we are both seeking. You should never give up after a downfall because most situations in life are trails and test we have to get through. Steeping out of an area of comfort that you may have to adjust to making your way out of, I know is different but this is what that growth is. Seeing eye to eye and making your connection stronger between your two forces of love pull.

But these situations are not always easy. We sometimes (well maybe it's mostly guys who feel this way) feel that once we have created that stamp we have found ownership to the loving human being we have found. But the problem with that is from observations I have seen the right girls end up with the wrong guys, they fall for the poker faced lies and find themselves halfway through the motions restarting their engines. But when a person loses something that was once so close to them and they still long for and chase that feel, despite of any falling out or break up, those people are usually the one we all need to very well hold on to.

"The Get Back" is one of the most interesting topics to speak on when it comes to these motions. You ask, why is that? Well it is because of the number of questions asked, the racing thoughts of how you can express newer ways to impress the person you long for. Not only do you speak on your wrong and scream your sorrows. You also discuss your up and coming aspirations. You both know that if you survived a dark separation and evolved back together that you two are ready for the world.

This is like that new beginning. We are making that shift. I know living through these motions get tough but the strength you build when you come out of it make you and yours who you are. Hard to comprehend some may state but this is the way I have found to express these feelings. I have never seen real love, these are just my darkest thoughts about the topic.

 A fresh start. New sneakers for the next round in these playoffs. We spend our lives running up and down this court after each other, getting tired of each other, learning each other and shaping our games to one day come together like great legends have, to achieve the greatest thing. The Championship (Matrimony)

The Break Ups

What has brought us to this place? What went wrong the last time we talked? Did I say something? Did I do something that made us leave from this place of magic energy we have created? This feels like the end doesn't it. This is the very moment that we broke have had incredible nightmares about. Not just this scary thought but the idea that we are actually through this. We were supposed to stick together through these moments. This is not when you end it but this is the place we are supposed to grow stronger. Is the energy still there or did begin to die down after all the honeymooning and arguments, all of the up and down hills that we both experienced.

A dramatic shift in this space we have created. We have fell off our axis around love and now we are beginning to fall away into this galaxy we were once riding through together. This idea of separation was never supposed to be thought of but because of the let up of our built strength, energy, great spaces filled with vibes we have established together. In this moment we both know it's not over but we both know this moment of space is much needed.

We have both began to grow negativity so early in the game. We must break away from the good moments to grow through this bad moment. Both in our own separate corners awaiting the fight of our life. Not a violent one but one we both want to battle through together. But this moment of separation should not last too long. In this separation we must grow, we can't forget why we are going through these motions. Love comes with a number of them, we just have to always be ready for them.

I know for sure in every relationship this is a very scary moment we all think of. And I'm talking about a real relationship where you both equally know the love bond between you two. There is no doubt in either of your minds that the love is there. But that very moment of separation is what cause us to back track and see where we have gone wrong. The Break Up is not the end but it actual is the starting stage of the stronger part of these motions of love. We evolve from these mistakes and put aside our problems, because what is to come is something so great and bone chilling that no adjective could describe this feel.

The more experience two people have between them during the good times and the bad are what makes all stars come align. Never lose hope in any dark situation because that storm only can last but so long. There will always be a brighter side at the end of the tunnel. The hardest part about it is getting through it.

The Arguments

Trapped in these boulders of anger. Boiling inside of us is pain. We don't sense any sign of joy. Our bodies are empting themselves out. We are freeing up space for a moment we have to get through. Filling our bodies is these mixed feelings, scattered thoughts, overlapping with memories on memories. Despite this feeling boiling in us we have to always cherish these memories. Unforgettable moments we've lived through. At this very state the scary thought of a departure from this place we have found love in. But this is only one of the many speed bumps through this driving course. What is the meaning of this horrible vibe we are letting out into our great atmosphere? Where did all of this back and forth cyphering between us love artist began? Was there ever a purpose behind this moment? Do we even remember why we are doing this? Who will win this debate? The vote is in people, this dramatic election has ended in a draw. Not one of us win this battle. A battle between the both of us that is constantly fought out. But not one of us ever take a defeat. A race both of us are dying to finish but in the end no trophy is presented.

Why do we have arguments? I heard people feel that these things make every relationship stronger. I also heard that it's good to let out that NEGATIVE ENERY, but I thought we were a generation all about POSITIVE ENERY, good vibrations, great spaces of energy. What ever happened to all of that? Have we embraced an old tradition people have used to get through situations. Now don't get me wrong disagreements will always happen, we won't always see eye to eye. But on these occasion we should not always argue about them. There are many less stressful ways to get each other's points across. The letting out of negative energy will only result in the combination of the output of the negative energy by the opposite force. We get over these humps all of these issues we see deeper than usually only make us stronger. In this constant race, the ride will not always go easy. We have to remember that only the good things in life matter, we use the bad to create the good vibes. We all should be about positive vibrations. Stay in a positive zone and it only gets better from here. As mentioned before, we are constantly shaping, growing and forming into better people for the both of us. We make these great sacrifices to come to an equal zone. We want to get lost in this space, we don't want anyone to take us from this space. No argument, no negative energy, no down vibe can effect this new space we have found Lets ride together.

The Honeymoon Stage

We all start off. Excited about every movement, every moment. A kiss, a hug, we fall in love with it all. Let’s not stop now, no slowing down. A train going one hundred miles per hour, without any brakes. The racing love flowing through the both of us. Not one of us winning this race to the finish line, we are making every single movement together and moving at a very synchronized pace. This feeling of togetherness that we all experience is the universal calling of the honeymoon stage.  This is the feeling we all grow to know meant everything and nothing at the same exact time. The meaning of everything is all the love we remember, we cherish every one of these moments, especially for those bad time between us when we need something to remains about. It's as if we know each other’s strengths and weaknesses at this point but we really don't this is just the beginning. We don't want anything to go wrong in this moment we hope and pray that every day goes just like the last or even ten times better. Riding your new car with no care for a mechanics work, we feel nothing can go wrong in this moment. No outside forces can affect the positive vibes we surround ourselves around, the positive vibes we have following through our bodies. This vibe cannot be altered, changed or distorted. It can only be enhanced, embraced and cherished. The hate we have for this is much different. We grow to find out that this moment in our lives was just a young learning experience. It’s like when your moms puts you on your first bike with those training wheels that just can’t seem to stay on straight. The more we ride the more we get the hang of it, the more we vibe with our person of choice the more that connection grows between us. I can also view the ending of this stage as overcoming something. In life we grow as people, we grow through different situation, we grow through different vibes we experience. And the growth we experience through this can strengthen a relationship, in a way we get a realization of each other. Put all the child like loving we do during this stage aside and you have the growth we experience through it. All these stages in the motions of love all are growing stages. Evolving through these state. Caterpillars wrapping themselves into the cocoon. This shield of protection we both wrapped ourselves in. Blocking us from all negativity through our time of metamorphism. We shift from a young hand holding couple into a stronger more connected team of two people ready for all the remaining stages of the motions of love.

The Relationship

We start with our first impressions, the right movements, a certain feel. We move into different interactions, stronger attractions, into rapid reactions. From the sharing of a moment, to a sharing of personal space, we now feel that the next step is ready for our footsteps. The motions of love are now moving in full swing. Two people who for a duration of time lived life free with no worries of a second piece by their side now feel ready to embark on this new flame, THE RELATIONSHIP. We have now reached a very key part of the process I like to call "The Motions of Love". Ready for the late night phone calls just to hear their voice, ready for the lovely good morning text you can't wait to wake up and read, ready for movies you watch together, ready for the love during stormy weather, ready for those long rides after a long day, ready for the learning of words we love to say, ready for the fights and arguments that nobody ever wins, we are finally ready to enter into this relationship.

I see the relationship as a human being going through puberty. We are growing, evolving, shaping into what we will soon become in a matter of time. We adapt to our different environments, learn from different perspectives, see through different views but in this relationship thing we bring it all together. We are both going through this growth together. Yes this is a huge step in the process but there is still a lot of learning and teachings to be taught. This is the preamble to the constitution of love and at the end of all of the completed motions we have the last goal of matrimony, but let's not jump ahead to early in the race. Tread slowly and very carefully. You want to make all the right moves, make all the right adjustments, so we can succeed thorough these motions.

Things in life take great time and patience. We can never rush perfection, we have to let the laws of life proceed through their course and good things come to those that wait. Valued time between two people equals stronger bonds. Stronger bonds result in powerful commitments. Powerful commitment gives off a mutual trust. And mutual trust makes for a stronger and healthier relationship in the long run. I mean that's what were all here for right, to achieve that thing of longevity in both life and love.

The Sex Thing

We are opening up. All feelings exposed. From the first impression to the first kiss, we feel we have expressed and felt everything we needed to share for this very important moment. Every personal barrier broken, personal space turns into a wrapped cocoon of all the feelings we have kept hidden for the amount of time we have waited to express them. This sex thing should not be taken lightly. This is the next step in this long process of love. It can be used for the greater good or abused just to let off a quick reaction, the act off a sudden impulse that can ruin a relationship between two people if one has seem to take advantage of the other.

This moment we allow ourselves into is very crucial. Not to fast, this is the time you bask in the moment. Not to slow, you don't want the joy to drift away. Just the right speed, tempo and mindset. Emotions are racing, its as if our bodies don't know if they want to leap for joy or search for comfort. Yes SEX is a amazing feeling but I know for a fact it is much deeper than that. We have exposed ourselves to our partner for the first time and the morning after is a thing of beauty. When the motions of love are used in the proper way and the feelings are real and expressed in the right manner then every step we are taking in this path to love has been the right step.

I think all of us enter this part of the relationship with mixed emotions, fear, and joy. Our thoughts aren't fully operating the way we expect them to so that gives us our mixed emotions. Fear is the funny feeling you get when presenting your senior paper in high school, you know all the information, you've done your research but you still get that funny tingle in your stomach before performing. So there's your fear component. But the joy goes without say. I can speak for the guys entirely on this one. For us its like all summer you been practicing that crossover in your backyard and you finally get to show out at the varsity basketball game. You get the picture. Now for girls I know there is more emotion involved. Not to sound explicit but in this situation we are the givers while you lay and receive, all love is expressed in this dark slow ride to love. We have finally shared the space we all know and love. Two turn to one and we share thoughts, feelings and a step of love all in one room.

The First Kiss

The first kiss. What does this signify? Is this the finishing of the first lap of this long, tiring race? Does this identify the two people as being in something more than just a platonic relationship? All the question I know run through my head but my curiosity is does this though travels your mind? Any type of physical connection between two people always result in some type of feeling. Men attempt to keep these emotions hidden, so their testosterone power is in full effect. Women tend to be more open to express these feeling, opening themselves up to the person of their liking. But the first kiss is the breaking down of that first power shell in all men, no matter who you are. The soft lips, red lipstick, the long hug before and after. This is the first love expressed in a sense but lets not get into that four letter word quiet yet. The thoughts of a future, sharing the same bubble of space, the fear of that bubble bursting. We are all are having these flashes, whether you feel that way or not, those feelings reside in your mind even when you have no awareness of the thought.

The first kiss can be looked at like that first time you get on one that new roller coaster. The ride always looks fun. The turns, flips, screams, that butterfly feeling you get when the ride worker tightens your seat belt. That click of the seat beat, is the strapping into that new ride, new feel, new relationship. You hate the turns but your ready to embrace them, you fear the flips but they keep your heart racing, you either want the screaming to come to a stop or continue depending on the climax of the situation(get your mind out the gutter). But when that seat belt is buckled let the riding begin.
After all the expressions of the first impression are evaluated phase two begins. This phase is where the long term feelings are expressed. We're like NBA rookies in the summer league, showcasing all of our talents to our owners watching from the sideline. We must handle this phase with great patience and execution. Because in this game it's all about longevity.

As most small things are when it comes to a relationship, the first kiss is often overlooked. We overlook small important points because our expectations are always high no matter what. But for the more mature people that take their time know that it is the small thing that weigh the most. Like that boulder in every roadrunner episode the light feather always brings the destruction and in the case of these person to person relations, even small imprint is the next step closer to either holy matrimony or complete destruction.

The First Impression

“In psychology, a first impression is the event when one person first encounters another person and forms a mental image of that person. Impression accuracy varies depending on the observer and the target being observed." The first impression is one of those many things we overlook but is a key component to a successful start to a loving relationship. I compare my first time of meeting people to that first high school varsity practice. It's the beginning, you’re not sure if you want to showcase every highlight of your skill set or get the feel of your teammates and build together. And with a first impression you want to play all your cards right and make all the right moves. Because failure in phase one I'm sure won’t get you to phase two (which will be discussed later).

 

For guys I feel it is tougher to capitalize on making the first impression. I feel this way because we give off the energy, create the vibe that ultimately sets the tone for the encounter. The task for girls is simpler from my perspective, they have the luxury of feeding off our energy, good or bad. In this situation men are the house and women are the buyers. Just like in all aspects of life it seems that they will always have the final say. But as important as they are, there are also flaws to these first impressions depending on the length of time you consider this should be.                                             

In my opinion the first impression is not just one day of speaking to you in the streets or that one time we went out to dinner. I feel the first impression is an extended period of time ranging from a month to a full 365 days. I say this because it takes time to get to know who people are and getting to see their true colors, not just the sugar coated "first date". Because anyone can impress someone in a five minute talk or an hour lunch break but when that realm of consistency is tapped into that is where the real challenge begins, this is where you start to feel things out and make your long-term decisions. The longer amount of time you put into knowing a person and growing with them will most of time result in a better relationship between the two. That is why it is key for both males and females to give things time and not jump in the first car that looks and feels the coolest.

It is not hard to find love, you just can't rush the process. Put a relationship into the perspective of the levels of a high-rise building. Every floor is a new setting, another chapter to love's unfinished book. I say unfinished because even when you reach the top floor (marriage), there is still a lot of work to be put into that next sequel of the series. Let's title this series "The Life of Love".