The First Impression

“In psychology, a first impression is the event when one person first encounters another person and forms a mental image of that person. Impression accuracy varies depending on the observer and the target being observed." The first impression is one of those many things we overlook but is a key component to a successful start to a loving relationship. I compare my first time of meeting people to that first high school varsity practice. It's the beginning, you’re not sure if you want to showcase every highlight of your skill set or get the feel of your teammates and build together. And with a first impression you want to play all your cards right and make all the right moves. Because failure in phase one I'm sure won’t get you to phase two (which will be discussed later).

 

For guys I feel it is tougher to capitalize on making the first impression. I feel this way because we give off the energy, create the vibe that ultimately sets the tone for the encounter. The task for girls is simpler from my perspective, they have the luxury of feeding off our energy, good or bad. In this situation men are the house and women are the buyers. Just like in all aspects of life it seems that they will always have the final say. But as important as they are, there are also flaws to these first impressions depending on the length of time you consider this should be.                                             

In my opinion the first impression is not just one day of speaking to you in the streets or that one time we went out to dinner. I feel the first impression is an extended period of time ranging from a month to a full 365 days. I say this because it takes time to get to know who people are and getting to see their true colors, not just the sugar coated "first date". Because anyone can impress someone in a five minute talk or an hour lunch break but when that realm of consistency is tapped into that is where the real challenge begins, this is where you start to feel things out and make your long-term decisions. The longer amount of time you put into knowing a person and growing with them will most of time result in a better relationship between the two. That is why it is key for both males and females to give things time and not jump in the first car that looks and feels the coolest.

It is not hard to find love, you just can't rush the process. Put a relationship into the perspective of the levels of a high-rise building. Every floor is a new setting, another chapter to love's unfinished book. I say unfinished because even when you reach the top floor (marriage), there is still a lot of work to be put into that next sequel of the series. Let's title this series "The Life of Love".